Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Re-learning Movement



The human body is built for movement and activity, not to sit still for hours. Not to speak of sitting still for hours, all cramped up.
But we have lost touch with our innate facility for grace and ease so completely that even when our lifestyles involve action, we tend to do it badly, and damage ourselves in the process. We don't know how to use ourselves well and do all the things we need to do and want to do. It seems we need to go back to educating ourselves in a very fundamental way, in things which we did instinctively and easily when we were very little children. Things that we did in innocence, we now have to relearn to do with skill and conscious control, so that we can use it in our lives, to tackle more and more challenging actions if we so choose.
This is especially relevant in professions such as sport and performance where we need to be constantly honing our skills; if we didn't, we'd stagnate and our skills would die.
The actor, the singer, the athlete - their work demands that they constantly push themselves to go further, raise the bar. Anything that helps them to do that is a valuable tool. But -
What we forget is that we don't all have to be athletes or performers to raise the bar for ourselves. We can do that in our daily lives, without changing them in any dramatic way. Start with little challenges, without worrying about the big ones, and who knows where they may lead us? Life then becomes the endless opportunity for exploration and learning that it was when we were really little, and everything was new and exciting.


Thursday, June 9, 2011

The Power of Posture

http://tinyurl.com/655dcyk

This is an interesting account of a study which was carried out on the effect of posture on the sense of power that people felt in themselves. While it would be simplistic to conclude that posture by itself can solve all problems, it would equally foolish to go completely the other way, and insist that it has nothing to do with feelings of confidence or authority. The relationship between your feelings about yourself, your response to the things happening to you and around you, and the way you hold yourself, isn't a one way street. Each feeds into the other, creating a continuous cycle of stimulus and response; it may be a cycle that reinforces your feelings of inferiority and lack of control, or of power and the sense of being on top of things.

The study seems to suggest that the effect of posture trumps even that of being given a title of power such as manager, or of (relative) powerlessness such as subordinate. Regardless of the title they were given, people who had assumed postures of power responded with the power affirming options in situations that were suggested to them. Thus, given a choice of speaking up first or staying silent, those who had taken postures or power tended to choose to speak first, regardless of whether they had the title of manager or subordinate.
As the article suggests, parents, teachers and sergeant majors have always been nagging their charges to 'Stand up straight! Shoulders back! Stomach in!' and so on. The study seems to prove that they may have been right.
But of course, I have to have my Alexander take on this.
The people who have impressed me most are usually the ones who had the easy posture of power and kept it without seeming to try. Not push, not bluster, not an in-your-face aggression - but a comfortable easy sense of themselves. And they weren't all in positions of power, either.
Those who tried never seemed to pull it off, and more often than not, had to resort to bluster and shows of power to get things done. They may have got things done, but they didn't convince.
I've also met several people who were in positions of power, but had rounded, diffident shoulders and a hesitant gait. Some of them were looking for a way to get themselves into postures of power because they had been told that that was holding them back from progressing in the organisation.
I could see very well that there was no way they were going to force themselves into the kind of 'good' posture that would presumably bring them the rewards of high office. Holding oneself in a posture that is not natural to you is difficult - no, nearly impossible - and damaging. It only means you have an additional layer of tension over the one you have already accepted as natural.
Instead of adding to it, you actually need to let go of it, so that the natural dignity of the human body can reestablish itself.
This doesn't just translate into a posture of power in the board room - it translates into an unselfconscious grace of being that operates everywhere. The authority in the board room - if you happen to be in it - is just the cherry on the icing.






Tuesday, June 7, 2011

The Knot in the Gut




One of the most memorable discoveries I made after I started learning the Alexander Technique was the presence of fear in my life.
There really was no apparent cause for it at that point - I was thoroughly enjoying my training, I'd got interesting work to do that paid for all my living expenses, I'd made wonderful new friends... in short, I couldn't wait to leap out of bed and into my day every morning - no matter what the weather - and that, for the UK, is saying quite a bit!
But then, through all of this, there was also a layer of tension at a very deep level; it surfaced, I think, simply because other, more superficial tensions began to drop away; that was great, because I realised that it was possible to live with a simple and uncomplicated pleasure -if only I could get rid of this clutching in the gut!
That was when I began to get a dim idea of just how much unnecessary fear we cart around. I thought around to all the people I knew, friends, relatives, acquaintances... anyone I could think of, and they were all living with this deep and diffuse apprehension that wouldn't let them enjoy their lives.
All of that terror, and where was it being held? Of course in the body! In the neck, the shoulders, the hips, the guts, in deep insidious knots that makes sure you are nicely tightening and shrinking. As I discovered, it wouldn't go away just because I was asking it to - and this was the point where I really felt I'd hit a wall.
This was the baseline from where I was living - under all the pleasure, pain, excitement, sorrow and all the myriad emotions that make up our daily lives, there was this layer of nameless dread; it surfaced as my habits began to change, and was just there -that knot in the gut, a solidly physical presence that kept me from living life as completely as I wanted.
But the real revelation for me was not this - it was the fact that this was the way I'd been living all along - this fear filled, apprehensive quality defined my life, and I hadn't even known it!
Then, of course, I can't help thinking -
What else do I not know?




Friday, June 3, 2011

Butterfly on a Wheel

I've always found this title very evocative - the idea of using massive force to do something that requires minuscule effort.
As I watch myself and others live our lives, the phrase comes back to me more and more insistently. We're using so much effort to do so little! In a converse of the 20/80 rule, 80% of our efforts bring in 20% of the desired end. Why would someone use a clenched fist to hold a tea cup?Or cling to the newspaper as if it were a lifeline?
Time and time again, if I stop whatever I'm doing, and simply ask myself,' Can I do this with less effort?', I find that indeed I can; not just that, but the quality of the action changes radically, becoming easier, smoother, lighter and altogether more pleasurable.
It seems that somewhere deep within us we have internalised the idea that life should not be pleasurable in this simple and satisfying way, that it is actually intended to be a struggle. So when we are able to access this quality, we don't really see it as something we can learn to bring more and more into our lives. We see it as an aberration - an enjoyable, even desirable one, but an aberration nevertheless. By definition, an aberration is something that's not normal - we can't take it for granted.
Which is why, when we experience the lightness and ease in the release of a long held muscle, we tend to tell ourselves,' Oh, that's lovely, but of course it's not going to last. That's not now I really am,' and straightaway go back to the comforting familiarity of tightness.